Kit-N-Kadoodle
Christian, LGBT, Pan-Sexual. I am happily married. My blog showcases my drawings, and other tumblrings I find interesting. Huzzah.
Shout out to you who stick by your loved ones when they are at their lowest.
Shout out to you who remain strong even when they are falling apart.
Shout out to you who may feel scared for your loved ones during their flashbacks, disassociation and painful memories but stay right where you are and wait for them to come back to you.
Shout out to you who pray silently that their flashback will end and they can hear YOUR voice again.
Shout out to you who stand beside them during the storm if fear and emotional melt downs. A silent but steady presence, a warrior guarding their loved one’s body as they fight the scariest battles on the inside.
Shout out to you, who loves without wavering. Who tries to understand, who asks questions to learn how to help and listen to what your loved one says so that next time, if you can give them any help you are available.
Shout out to those who know that what they are going through is NOT YOUR FAULT. That you know that you are needed and wanted, even when it may not seem like it.
Shout out to you who learn and look for triggers and do your very best to keep your loved one safe.
Shout out to those of you who are learning to be better. Because what hour loved one is going through is hard and scary and they may feel that they are very unsafe.
Shout out to all of you who won’t allow the stigma of PTSD define your loved one. You know they are survivors fighting baffles over and over again. You are making your loved one feel safe.
Shout out to you who don’t see your loved one as crazy, or melodramatic. You fight along side them. You have their back.
Thank you for holding on. Take care of yourself so that you can help them. Build a support group for yourself. Remember to eat.
Don’t give up on them. You are priceless.
Hi Everyone. My name is Kit. I have a thyroid disorder that doesn’t make it easy to lose weight. I have recently begun the long journey towards living a healthier lifestyle. It’s going to be a hard battle… but I hope to come out on the other side with less anxiety and a positive outlook on life.
In the meantime, I have a major issue with society and how people perceive those of us who are bigger than others. I dare any of you to find me more than a handful of deep, thought out characters who are plus-sized. And then try to give me some that are female. (Sadly, this list is WAY too short…)
The Media loves to depict those of us who are heavier with utter disrespect. Here are a few examples that I see the most:
* They choose to show as the foil to which the thinnier, prettier character is pitted against so she she can avoid becoming the ugly, crazy woman who let her life spiral out of control. (recently seen in the show, Fresh off the Boat.)
*Hollywood loves to depict plus size women in the role of the idiotic character. The one who enjoys eating, and cracking jokes about avoiding exercise. (Fat Amy, many of Melissa McCarthy’s latest characters)
*We are rarely, if ever cast as the MAIN character. I can’t even think of a popular plus-sized, female character in which the story is centered upon. Even heavier men are cast as “The Buddy” character (Bolin, from LOK is an example) or the Middle-aged idiotic Fat man who has the skinny wife.
*Popular Cultures creates insulting terms like “DUFF” (Designated Ugly Fat Friend) to harm and label their peers.
Society tells us that being overweight is the ugliest thing that a woman can be. There are thousands of products out there geared toward weightloss. There is even reality TV shows that force contestants into a contract and nearly kill them for ratings. All because we all want to LOOK skinny. We all want to open a magazine, turn on a movie and see a skinnier version of ourselves looking back.
I don’t know about you, but I am sick and tired of this mindset. I am losing weight because I am already facing elevated blood pressure, and I’m only in my mid-20s. I also have high anxiety so that doesn’t help me either.
Living life isn’t about being Thin, or even fitting in. Be yourself. LOVE youself. LOVE ALL of yourself. Take care to understand that your self worth doesn’t equal what the scale says.
Love you guys. I will be creating more of my “Fat with Feelings” series. Please share this picture so others can be encouraged! Lets aLL BE WIDE WARRIORS.
~Kit